Progress on My 19 for 2019

Number 7- Buy Discover Pass checked off ==but wrist stopped me going snow shoeing.  I will take a quick drive and go around a close trail to get up this season— or hope for snow in my back yard to try them on.  We got about 3 inches last night but  the snow is starting to melt.

Number8- I bought 3 roses online from Northland Rosarium.  1 red climbing rose and 2 Chihuly Roses. I used to like hybrid teas but realized that Floribunda  and Grandiflora roses like the Love rose,that I bought last fall,  look much better in a garden setting. 

Number 16- Steve and I met with  Jeanette and the glassware went into her trunk. It will be sold at a sale in May to help the Spokane Symphony.

17) I ended up making a Quince Preserve instead of paste.  I used it on an appetizer and made a salmon marinade.

How are you coming on your 19 for 2019? or even 9 for 2019?

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My Complete 19 for 2019

  1. Go to the gym 8 times a month.  This goal seemed achievable as the month started.  I had been to the gym 4 times for class and once for yoga.  I fell on 1/14 and broke my wrist. Until my surgery on 2/24 and my bone is repaired, no yoga for a few weeks.
  2. finish two piano books and start black key scales.
  3. Learn basic sentences for time ti Portugal.
  4. Read Lonely Planet and travel books.
  5. Take all photos to table in basement and make albums.
  6. Buy Discover Pass and go snow shoeing.
  7. Paint family room and office.
  8. Buy roses and remember to plant stored bulbs.
  9. Plan road trip to Arcata.
  10. Swim in pool 4 days a week during the summer.
  11. Do 1/2 marathon where I can walk and jog and start early.
  12. Don’t keep score and let go.
  13. Take Carson for a walk 3 times a week.
  14. Go on 5 hikes and lead 1.
  15. Have gum surgery.
  16. Call Jeanette and drop off crystal for Symphony sale.
  17. Make Spanish Quince Paste.
  18. Continue to deepen friendships and get to know 4 people better.
  19. Get a community garden box for root crops.
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My 19 for 2019

1) Go to a gym class at least 8 times a month.  I went to my first yoga class in months.  It felt great but I was tired.

2)Finish piano class books and learn black key scales. More complicated pieces use the sharp/flat scales.

Piano with futon

My piano studio/pool house with new studio sized piano.

3)Learn basic sentences for trip to Portugal. I don’t want to be rude and not everyone speaks English.

4) Read Lonely Planet and other travel books for Portugal. I always like to prepare.

5)Take all photos to basement and make albums. My downsizing and organizing goal from 2012!

6) Find two quality rugs at Owens Auction for family room. Good news/bad news-great items are auctioned off from Estate sales.  Bad news is the things people spent thousands of dollars may not even sell.  If you always wanted a china cabinet and china, now is the time.  If you have multiple sets, use them all the time.  The next generation only wants things that can be put together with an Allen wrench.

7)Buy State Discover Pass and go snow shoeing. Such a great value.  I have a forever pass for the National Parks, Wildlife Refuge, BLM lands, and National Monuments.

8) Buy 2 quality rose bushes and plant bulbs that I stored all winter.  Box store roses never last beyond 3 years and aren’t constant bloomers.

julia child rose

Julia Child rose

9)Plan road to Arcata in March.

10)Swim 4 days a week this summer when in town to justify the new heater.

11)Do a half marathon that I can walk/jog and sign up at the last minute. The extra fee is better than not showing up for a reduced rate.

12)Don’t keep score and let go.

13)Take Carson for a walk 3 times a week. Actually more important for him than me.  Cavaliers can develop heart issues

14)Go on 5 hikes and lead one. I am a leader for a woman’s hiking group.  I didn’t lead a single hike in 2018.

15)Have gum surgery. I have been putting this off for 3 years…

16)Call Jeanette and drop of crystal for the symphony sale.

17)Make a Spanish Quince paste. My friend brought me quince fruit which I cooked and is in my freezer.

18)Plant potatoes, beets, fennel, leeks, and Swiss Chard in community garden box.

19)Continue to deepen friendships and get to know 4 people better.

Gretchen Ruben suggested having some goals that you know you will do.  They are one time things.  I will make the paste soon and call Jeanette for example.  Do you have some 19 for 2019 goals?

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Better than Before in 2019 –I hope you find some of the ideas helpful

My comments are in italics.

From Gretchen Rubin’s Podcast 202: Use This Check List for Habit Change Self-Knowledge

  • The Four Tendencies: To change your habits, you have to know yourself, and in particular, your Tendency. (Are you an Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, or Rebel? Take the quiz here.)
  • Distinctions: Knowing yourself is so important that it’s not enough to know your Tendency, you must also recognize your Distinctions. (For instance, are you a Marathoner or Sprinter? I am a mall walker.  I like to do a little bit of some large task every day. 
  • Under-buyer or over-buyer? I am definitely an over buyer.  We would run out of paper products all the time when I was growing up.  Never have stamps.  Why? We had money and room for extra.  I have ended up buying too many bottles of eye make up remover, shampoo and conditioner, and moisturizer because “I don’t want to run out when I need it, especially on vacation.”
  • Finisher or Opener? I am neither.  I am a space conservationist even though I have room.  It makes me irritated when I overbuy.  Overbuying to me is buying more than a quick replacement for something always in use. I bought a life time of No.2 pencils and glue sticks at Costco.  Thankfully a local classroom put them to good use.
  •   I like to have things in smaller containers.  I can empty something that no one will drink or eat again even if it is full.  My daughter, Beth, is the only one that likes egg nog.  It is in the refrigerator when she comes come for Christmas and  is gone when she leaves. 
  • Novelty-lover or Familiarity-lover?) Familiarity-I love where I set up my yoga mat, my routine in the gym.

Pillars of Habits

  • Monitoring: You manage what you monitor, so find a way to monitor whatever matters.
  • Foundation: First things first, so begin by making sure to get enough sleep, eat and drink right, move, and un-clutter (this last element inspired me to write my book Outer Order, Inner Calm). She found that people were stressed in clutter and disorganization–where are my keys? my gym bag? the bill I need to pay? finding an outfit for school/work/vacation when needed.
  • Scheduling: If it’s on the calendar, it happens.
  • Accountability: You do better when you know someone’s watching—even if you’re the one doing the watching. This is crucial for Obligers; it can be counter-productive for Rebels.

The Best Time to Begin

  • First Steps: It’s enough to begin; if you’re ready, begin now.
  • Clean Slate: Temporary becomes permanent, so start the way you want to continue. Elizabeth mentions the book by David Sedaris, When You Are Engulfed in Flames.
  • Lightning Bolt: A single idea can change the habits of a lifetime, overnight. (Enormously powerful, but not possible to invoke on command.) This happened to me when I read Gary Taubes’s book Why We Get Fat. I changed all my eating habits, overnight.

Desire, Ease, and Excuses

Abstaining: For some of us, moderation is too tough; it’s easier to give up something altogether. (Works very well for some people, and not at all for others.)

  • Convenience: Make it easy to do right and hard to go wrong.
  • Inconvenience: Change your surroundings, not yourself.
  • Safeguards: Plan to fail. Remember, a struggle may prevent a fall, so learn from your mistakes. Pack your work out shoes and clothing first.  Ask for a box when your meal comes.  Put half of it in the box.  Either throw it away or eat it for another meal when you eat out on vacation.  No one will make a big deal about your order in your group.
  • Loophole-Spotting: Don’t kid yourself. (The funniest strategy. I love collecting loopholes.) I will have a cheat day.  I am on vacation.  I forgot to pack my work out shoes.
  • Distraction: Wait fifteen minutes. I had gotten in the habit of a snack when I watch TV the last hour of the day.  Having a cup of tea with honey is a big distraction and many less calories.
  • Reward: The reward for a good habit is the good habit, and that’s the reward to give yourself. (The most misunderstood strategy.) If the reward is an if/then, the good behavior may stop.  I will play the piano until the recital.  I will lose weight for this special outfit.
  • Treats: It’s easier to ask more of yourself when you give more to yourself. (The most fun strategy.)  Treats are fun things you want to do that are still positive.  I take a brief walk after I start dinner.  I will finish this book for class/work/book club and then order this fun book for pleasure.
  • Pairing: Only do X when you’re doing Y. (Simple but surprisingly effective.) Only listen to the Happier podcast when you’re out for a walk. Her sister, Liz, shared that she will deal with her work clothes before she puts on her comfy slippers rather than throwing them on the floor. 

Unique, Just like Everyone Else

  • Clarity: The clearer you are about what you want, the more likely you are to stick to your habits. This is a particularly useful strategy for Questioners.
  • Identity: Your habits reflect your identity, so if you struggle to change a particular habit, re-think your identity. This is particularly useful for Rebels.
  • Other People: Your habits rub off on other people, and their habits rub off on you.
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Number 2 for 19 for 2019- I am the Piano Woman –with apology to Billy Joel

I moved my piano out to the pool house.   I  can play parts of a piece over and over again without thinking that I am driving anyone in the house crazy.  A friend called about a dinner party and I was outside practicing.  I want to finish my piano and performance books by June, which is the end of the school year.  I started playing the fall of 2012 when I retired.  I wasn’t taking lessons often and practicing even less.  I got more dedicated and take lessons weekly when possible.  I have mastered legato, staccato, dynamics, major and minor non-flat/sharp keys,  know key signatures, timing, and recently pulse.  I can play songs written all over the keyboard.  I am almost as good a pianist as Jenni in 4th grade when I read her music. My teacher will keep her studio open as long as her students want to study with her. She isn’t taking any new students. We will continue on the journey to see how it develops.


Jenni at the piano

Piano with futon

My piano studio/pool house with new studio sized piano.

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19 for 2019

I couldn’t think of song title to go with this blog.  10 years ago I read the book, The Happiness Project by Gretchen Ruben.  She has started a podcast called “Happier”.  Last year she talked about 18 for 2018.  Not New Year’s resolutions but ideas that would be measurable and make you happier.  Not happy all the time, just happier.  Also small things that you could cross off your list.  Anything measured is more effective per lots of research.  So rather than saying, “I am going to loss 10 pounds this year”  write, “I am going to walk my dog 2 times a week” or “the next 3 times to the grocery store, I am going to park further out in the parking lot.”  A family practice doctor I know tells her patients not to watch TV until the last hour of the day.  Then march in place during the commercials.  If you get tired, sit down and lift weights.  If weights are too heavy, lift soup cans.  The past six months I have moved plants, worked in the garden, moved furniture, and painted.  My upper body is strong but I haven’t hiked, swam long distance, nor jogged so my quads have gotten weaker.

Back to the gym I go. Number 1 for 19 for 2019.  IMG_1280

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Can I sail through the changin’ ocean tides? Can I handle the seasons of my life? Landslide by Stevie Nicks

Well, I’ve been ‘fraid of changin’
‘Cause I’ve built my life around you
But time makes you bolder
Even children get older
And I’m gettin’ older, too
My younger daughter was home last weekend.  We spent some time in the beautiful Japanese Gardens.  My older daughter is now married and lives in New York City.  My husband and I decided to update our living room and dining room.  We’ve lived in our home since our youngest had just turned 4.  She is now 28.  I am in the autumn of my life.
I am trying to be bolder, handling the seasons of my life and truly relish the time that I have been given. .   In the past, voting was my political action.  I did have a yard sign for local candidates running for City Council two summers ago. I just received my Democratic official PCO notification.  I canvassed 3 times for a Congressional Candidate and reached out to neighbors with similar political views.
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